I had an interesting, albeit frustrating, conversation with my teens today. “I want to pick a new hobby, where should I start?” I asked them. “Do what you love,” they responded. “But I love whatever I do, so how do I pick?” And around in circles we went.
Who knew how complicated and simplistic that one question could be.
To give a bit of background, I’m told that I’m a bit of an odd duck. Why? Because for me, a hobby needs to have a purpose. The purpose doesn’t need to be world changing, but I’m an entrepreneur through and through and it is very difficult for me to spend my time doing anything that I don’t feel is productive in some way.
I’m also a very social person, so I also like to know that my time is spent doing things that will help other people, or that other people would get enjoyment or inspiration from, or that will make other people smile.
I’m told that this is “unhealthy” by my ever wise children. And if I’m honest, there have been few people in my life who have ever really understood my perspective on this. But I’m ok with that, I understand their perspective even if they don’t understand mine. See it’s not that I don’t do anything for “me” – I read, I play piano, I now do yoga (see my last post on that journey) and I zone out watching TV… All for my own self pleasure. But they still have purpose… They help to clear my mind (which is healthy), to relax and de-stress (which is healthy), stimulate my creativity (also healthy) and of course yoga and even playing piano have physical benefits too.
So why do I want a new hobby? Well, I’m a writer and my books cater to a particular audience. I’d like to further grow and develop that audience and I’d like to connect with them more. As such, I’d also like to have more in common with them than just my books. I want to try new things and get to know new people. I have plenty in my life for “me”, so I’d like to add something that is a little more for “us”.
So I would like to pose two questions to you my readers…
One further point of clarification, I’m not looking to become an expert in any given hobby (so it won’t necessarily be a new life-long venture) and it matters not whether I “think” I’ll like it or not. The point is that I want to try, I want to share my progress with you and I’d like to open up conversation about it. Once I’ve got some suggestions (bonus points for low cost suggestions lol) then I’ll assign a time frame for it and I’ll provide regular updates on my progress.
The only rule is that whatever you suggest has to be something that you personally do and enjoy. 🙂
I look forward to reading your comments below!